around and I would

around and I would

　　I had to feed twenty two horses every morning before I earned the right to have breakfast. Imagine an eight and a half year old kid getting up in the dark in canada and going outside and opening the barn door. And I remember it would be like thirty rats every time I opened the barn door and they would scurry around and I would hope that none of them would stay around. And one time I went back to the house and I said, dad, can you come with me? And he locked the door and he says go out and do your choice. You don't come back until they're done. It was kind of the beginning of me realizing that I wasn't in a supportive environment. And I learned one thing and one thing only is that if I was willing to work hard, then I could get my dad's attention. But I remember waking up I was about thirteen or fourteen years old and this was the day my dad promised me it was gonna be yes, this was the day we were going to play together. We're going to throw the football back and forth. And I was super excited. I walked out of my bed and I ran down the stairs and I saw my father where he always is is ankle is chained to the desk. But as I got closer, I knew something was wrong. Like, I could, I could feel there was a heaviness in the air, and I started to get nervous. And when dad, yes, I went, I um, you you you you ready to go play?

　　And the weirdest thing happened is he turned, he looked at me and I felt myself shrinking down, and he stood upand this shadow cast over me when he goes. Do you have any idea what it takes to put food on the table? Do you think that this roof just puts itself their money? Doesn't grow on trees? You know, one day you're going to have to work hard for money. Now get out and play on your own before I put you to work. And I turned around and I walked out and I never asked them again to play. I don't have one memory. You're playing with my dad, not one. The only way I connected with him was when he was working around the house. To be sure, i'd say, dad, can I help you handle the nails? Or i'd hold the measuring tape is the only way never once. He never came to my hockey games. He dropped me off in the car and stayed in the car. All the other parents were tying this skates. I was there alone. I would try to score as many goals as I could, so I could go in and tell my score, the winning goals. So he want to come and look, you did I remember winning honors in school for um, academic achievement. Looking out in the crowd. Help me see my dad.He was never there. So the only soul and siad was to work hard. So I doubled down on that and I worked hard and I call them out to look at the task being done. And invariably was never good enough.

　　So I doubled down again and work harder. It didn't feel good at the time. But in life what you do, if you do what is easy, life will be difficult. But if you do it is difficult. I feel be easy. I got the difficult part out front, and I got really good at it. By the time I was fourteen, I saved up enough money to get a scooter. By the time I was sixteen, I had my first car. By the time I was seventeen, I thought, you know what? I'm out of here. This sucks. I mean, I could go out and make four times the amount of money living on my own, even if they have to pay rent. I don't care. So I moved out, I drove a taxi,I did carpentry, I cut lawns, I washed windows, they did anything. That was hard work, because that's all I knew. And then my life changed. I got a call from my step mom and she said, your dad is cancer. So I jumped on a plane and I did everything I could. I took care of the house. He said to me, he had some bad back taxes from canada that were unpaid. I said, yes, i'll pay them for you. I did everything I possibly could. And I remember the day I had to leave to go back to take care of my family. I had a young son at the timeand they had nothing left. And I asked my dad while he was probably ninety eight pounds sitting lying in the bed. And I said, dad, can you think of a time when, um, when I made you proud? And i'm thinking to myself, like, I there's a whole bunch. I was almost a millionaire by that time. I'd done so many things. I've risen up, i'd open a restaurant, i've never learn a new language and so many things. This was the time is going. Well, of course, then let me read from a list. But instead he said nothing that I can think and I don't know if it broke my spirit or if I thought I had hit rock bottom. I hit another layer. But when I got back home, actually I was fired from my job. My marriage had fallen apart. Um, I had no money left that i'd paid to support him. So I got addicted from my apartment and I moved back on my mom with my mom at the age of thirty. So there I am, thirty years old, working sixteen hours a day for twenty years, and I have absolutely nothing to show for it, except maybe a skill set on how to work hard. But I tell you what, when you're down there, you think there's nothing left.

　　IT's the foundation to grow from. I thought what am I going to do now? And some little birdmentioned real estate. So I thought i'd get into real estate and I got into real estate. And that's when I met my first mentor that transform my life. I was in my office one night really late and I was having a conversation with my mentor and he walks in and he leans against the door and he goes just still here. And I said, yeah, and because you really have a great work ethic. And I wenttalking to me, you see, i'm talking to you because you're awesome. Like, he's still talking to me. IT's like I never had anybody tell me that they believed in me. My father certain was always you can do better, you can do better, you could do better. Yeah, it drove me, but it didn't make me feel confident. And I doubted it at first and we started to talk and he goes, oh, so you've labeled yourself stupid as a loser and a skinny little kid. He goes, how do you feel about that? And I said I still feel that way says you're thirty years old like, oh, yeah, I know, but I still felt that way inside this is ok, we're gonna change. Who's an idol that you have and said, well, one of my favorite is is like clint eastwood.

　　He's like rugged, i'm kind of rugged. I feel rugged, this perfect. How does that feel when you say that? So that feels pretty good because that's it. I want you to say that a thousand times a thousand times every day or more if you want loser out ruggedly handsome. So now what we're gonna do is going to reprogram your brain. Your brain is like software. We're just going to reprogram it said how did I do that? It was just every time you have a chance to say I am ruggedly handsome ruggedly handsome to the words that follow. I am follow you you just didn't know it you had shitty programming. But now we're gonna change that and change that forever. I remember driving home, I was so excited, was so excited because I could change my program, didn't know. I thought it was stuck that way my whole life. And all I have to do is have the energy to put into changing the way I see myself.And it was I just said it over all members screaming in the car. Really some readily answered loudly and said i'd get up in the morning. I'd say over and over and over again. I'd say it as much as I possibly could. And then spontaneously one morning I was in the shower and I said i'm the greatest real estate agent in my area. I'm the greatest real estate agent in my area and I went from one sale in my first year or two in a few years a hundred sales that broke every record there was and then I bought the freaking company went from from farm border financially free I became resourceful. I became capable of doing things I didn't know I was going to do the most powerful force in the human psyche is how we describe ourselves to herself. Who's giving you labels? You too short.

　　You're too tall, you're quiet, you're introverted and you take on those labels and you wear them like they're your persona and then you live into them like a role that you were given in life. You can rewrite that. You can make it whatever you want, insert it and then program it. I am I am you are what if the guy did grateful, powerful, passionate, playful, sexy, central sense of the blessed? What are you? Today is the first day of the rest of your life and you get to redefine yourself. So who are you and who do you want to be? The words that follow? I am follow you.